Chilliwack the good, the bad, the extremely ugly. Chilliwack. It was where I was raised for about half of my childhood. The mountains are beautiful. There are trees all around it. However, the ratio of beautiful people to the not-so-beautiful falls far in favour of the latter. Now Im not talking about physical beauty, though there is that. The friends I value in Chilliwack arent models but theyre the most reliable, good-hearted, honest people that I know. It sounds like Im picking on Chilliwack, and I guess I am. I only associate it so because I spent the weekend there, and I was in a restaurant/pub with a lot of dybbuks. Certainly there are a lot of people who are superficially nicer to look at in the big city, but just as much twits, jerks and snobs. There are a lot of things about people that bother me. A lot. That’s old news. The basics of course ignorance, violence most people I know are against that. One thing I think that bothers me more than others is the absence of reliability. Unreliability, if you will! Ive known many such people: many cool, like-minded, fun people with lots of good traits, but one bad one that I cannot abide. Over the years they have been culled from my regular associations, by my choices or by chance. I always give new people the benefit of the doubt, and lots of chances, but if after a while it becomes clear that they chronically and habitually say theyll do something and then fail to do it, my esteem in them drops dramatically. Many think its okay to bail out of commitments – no real harm done. A flippant apology patches up any wrongdoings, to them. But to me, it’s not just a disappointment, its a big disrespect.
Ive myself been criticized, not for breaking commitment, but for my lack of MAKING a commitment. I used to gauge–vocally and openly– the likelihood of my attendance or commitment on something even going so far as to assigning a percentage value rather than saying Ill be there and then not showing. This was not received well by one of my friends. She took my saying theres a 50/50 chance Ill be there or theres a 95% chance I can do it to mean that I didnt value her time/friendship. She asked me to stop doing that and I did out of respect for her wishes and feelings. But still, I would rather be told theres a chance that I cant do X than For sure totally Ill do X and then, of course, be let down.